What Does the Bible Say About Someone Ignoring You?

Being ignored can be very hurtful. When someone we care about refuses to acknowledge us or act as if we don’t exist, it’s natural to feel rejected, unimportant and insignificant. As Christians, how should we handle being ignored by others? What does God’s word say about this situation? In this comprehensive blog post, we will explore biblical truths and principles that address what to do when someone ignores you.


In life, there will be times when people ignore you or give you the silent treatment. It could be a friend, family member, church member, coworker, or even a spouse. Being ignored makes you feel invisible, worthless, and uncared for. It’s a passive but hurtful act. How are Christians called to handle this type of treatment?

Here are the key takeaways that will be covered in this blog post:

  • God sees you and cares deeply even when people ignore you. You are not invisible to Him.
  • Pray for the person ignoring you. Ask God to soften their heart and open communication.
  • Search your own heart and behavior to see if you contributed to the rift in the relationship.
  • Seek wise counsel from trusted friends or a pastor on how to handle the situation.
  • Be kind in your response and leave the door open to reconciliation. Do not retaliate.
  • Let go of bitterness and forgive those who hurt you through their silence. Trust God to heal the hurt.
  • Refuse to dwell on being ignored. Focus on things that uplift you.
  • Allow the experience to deepen your relationship with God. Draw comfort from His word.

Being ignored is very hard to deal with, especially when it’s done by those close to you. It’s important to understand why it happens, how to respond in a godly manner, and learn the lessons God wants you to learn through the experience. By following biblical principles, you can overcome the pain of being ignored and grow in spiritual maturity.

What Does the Bible Say About Someone Ignoring You?

Why People Ignore Others

To understand how to handle being ignored, it helps to first understand some of the reasons why people ignore others. Here are a few common reasons:

1. Anger and Conflict

One of the main reasons people ignore others is because they are angry and there is conflict in the relationship. They resort to giving the silent treatment as a passive aggressive way to punish the other person. They refuse to communicate and sort out issues. Ignoring someone often stems from unresolved anger and bitterness.

2. Feelings of Superiority

Some people ignore others because they see themselves as superior. They consider the ignored person as inferior and unworthy of their time and attention. Their pride prevents them from showing basic courtesy.

3. Jealousy and Insecurity

People sometimes ignore others because they feel jealous. When a person’s accomplishments, talents or gifts make them insecure, they try to diminish them by refusing to acknowledge them. For example, an insecure friend may ignore you if your life seems more successful.

4. Dislike or Disagreement

Strong dislike or disagreement can cause some people to ignore others. When they fundamentally clash or disapprove of someone’s lifestyle or values, they dismiss them entirely by giving them the cold shoulder treatment. Their way of showing rejection is to pretend the person does not exist.

5. Insensitivity and Carelessness

In some cases, ignoring others has nothing to do with the person, but is a sign of insensitivity and carelessness. Some people are so self-absorbed that they pay little attention to others and disregard their feelings. Their actions reflect their own self-centeredness.

6. Emotional Immaturity

Ignoring someone is often a childish, emotionally immature behavior. Grown adults should be able to sit down and communicate directly. Silent treatments reflect poor emotional development and indirect aggression.

7. Mental Health Problems

In rare cases, ignoring others constantly can signal mental health struggles like depression, anxiety or other challenges that make engagement very difficult. Professional help may be needed for the person to relate normally.

Regardless of the reasons, being ignored always hurts. But it helps to understand why some people resort to this unkind silent treatment of others. The next section covers how Christians should respond.

How Should Christians Respond to Being Ignored?

The Bible gives clear principles on how believers should handle difficult relationships and conflict. What does God’s word say about how to respond when someone ignores you? Here are 8 biblical keys.

1. Recognize that God Sees You

When others ignore you, remember that God sees you. You are never invisible or forgotten by Him. David was devoted to God, yet he at times felt ignored by people. He wrote:

???I am forgotten like a dead man, out of mind; I am like a broken vessel.??? (Psalm 31:12 NKJV)

But later in this Psalm he declares his trust in God:

???But as for me, I trust in You, O Lord; I say, ???You are my God.??? (Psalm 31:14 NKJV)

When people ignore you, pour out your hurt to God. Let Him assure you of His unconditional love and care. You matter deeply to Him.

2. Pray for Them

It may seem very unfair for someone to ignore you while you have done nothing wrong. The natural response is to feel bitter towards them. However, Jesus taught that we should pray for those who mistreat or hurt us:

???But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.??? (Matthew 5:44 NKJV)

Pray that God would soften the heart of the person ignoring you. Ask Him to remove any barriers to communication and pave the way to reconciliation. Hand over your hurt to God.

3. Examine Yourself

Being ignored causes introspection. That can be a good thing. We should ask if we contributed in any way to the broken relationship that led to this treatment. The Bible instructs us to examine ourselves:

???Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you???? (2 Corinthians 13:5 NKJV)

Humbly asking God to search your heart may reveal blind spots or sins like pride, selfishness, or impatience that damaged the relationship. This self-examination can lead to spiritual growth.

4. Seek Wise Counsel

When someone ignores you, especially for a prolonged time, it is wise to seek counsel on how to handle it. God can use other believers to guide you:

???Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.??? (Proverbs 11:14 NKJV)

A pastor or mature Christian friend can help you find biblical perspective. They may provide discernment into the root of the rift in the relationship and how to reconcile it if possible.

5. Be Kind in Response

It is tempting to retaliate when ignored by giving a dose of the silent treatment back to the person. But that usually escalates tensions. As Christians, we are called to overcome evil with good:

???Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.??? (Romans 12:21 NKJV)

Be the kind person who breaks the cycle of unkindness. Reach out and communicate respectfully, leaving the door open to restore the relationship.

6. Let Go of Bitterness

Allowing bitterness to take root in your heart is spiritually dangerous. It can ruin relationships, health, and fellowship with God. We must actively choose to forgive those who hurt or ignore us:

???Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.??? (Ephesians 4:31-32 NKJV)

This letting go is a process but with God’s help, we can do it. Bitterness harms us more than those who harmed us. Release it.

7. Refocus Your Thoughts

Dwelling on being ignored or trying to figure out the motives of the person ignoring you takes up mental and emotional energy. This rumination can become consuming, even obsessive. Refocus your thoughts on positive things:

???Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy???meditate on these things.??? (Philippians 4:8 NKJV)

Take your thoughts captive and reframe them on God’s truth, promises and goodness. Refuse to dwell on hurt.

8. Let God Use It for Good

In His sovereignty, God can use every experience, positive or painful, for our growth and to strengthen our dependence on Him. King David wrote:

???It is good for me that I have been afflicted, That I may learn Your statutes.??? (Psalm 119:71 NKJV)

Being ignored feels awful but ask God to use it to teach you perseverance, compassion, and forgiveness. Let Him deepen your walk with Him.

By following these biblical principles, we can overcome the hurt of being ignored and even gain spiritual benefits from the experience. Our conduct can also be a Christlike witness to others.

Biblical Examples of Being Ignored

In the Bible, there are several examples of godly people being ignored or mistreated by others. How did they handle it? What can we learn from them?

Moses – Ignored by Pharaoh

Moses obeyed God’s call to demand that the ruler of Egypt, Pharaoh, free the Israelites from slavery. But Pharaoh ignored Moses’ pleas and even increased their workload (Exodus 5:1-9). Yet Moses did not retaliate. He continued respectfully warning Pharaoh while seeking God who eventually rescued the Israelites in a powerful way.

Hannah – Provoked by Her Rival

Hannah was one of two wives of Elkanah, but was unable to have children unlike Penninah, his other wife. Penninah provoked and taunted Hannah because of her infertility. But Hannah poured her grief out to God in prayer instead of retaliating, and was blessed with a son, Samuel (1 Samuel 1:1-20).

David – Condemned by Shimei

When King David was driven from Jerusalem by his son Absalom, a Benjamite named Shimei cursed and mocked him as he left. David’s men wanted to kill Shimei, but David humbly accepted it as discipline from God for his sin with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 16:5-14).

Jeremiah – Plotted Against by Enemies

The prophet Jeremiah faithfully preached God’s word to Judah but was ignored, mocked, and plotted against. At one point, men claiming to be his friends ignored his advice, forcing him to go to Egypt (Jeremiah 43). But Jeremiah did not quit prophesying boldly.

Jesus – Rejected by the Religious Leaders

Though Jesus is the Son of God, many of the religious elite of His day ignored, belittled, and ultimately crucified Him. But Jesus responded with grace and forgiveness, praying for them while suffering on the cross (Luke 23:34).

As we can see from these examples, being ignored is a common experience, even among devout followers of God. By looking to Him for comfort and strength, we can respond to this treatment with humility, patience and wisdom.

Lessons Christians Can Learn from Being Ignored

Being ignored or ostracized is unpleasant but also presents opportunities to grow spiritually and relationally. Here are some possible lessons:

Develop Christlike Character

By refusing to retaliate and praying for those who ignore you, you become more like Jesus. Your character is refined as you gain self-control, patience, grace, and forgiveness towards others.

Grow in Wisdom and Maturity

Going through this struggle can develop godly wisdom and emotional maturity if you handle it biblically. You become better at navigating conflict and relating to difficult people.

Gain Perspective

Being ignored gives you the experience of what it feels like from the other side. This may make you more careful about making others feel excluded. It develops understanding.

Overcome Insecurity

The pain of being ignored can force you to find your security and worth in God rather than in other’s opinions. You realize He alone defines who you are in Christ.

Build Deeper Friendships

As superficial relationships fade, you learn to nurture friendships that provide genuine mutual care and understanding. You become a truer friend.

Draw Closer to God

Ignored by people, you lean into God more, deepening your relationship with Him. You discover the comfort only He provides. Your faith grows.

Develop Empathy for Others

Once ignored and hurt yourself, you become more compassionate towards those who are ostracized by others. You can encourage them from your experience.

By embracing these lessons, you can mature and thrive spiritually even in the painful silence of being ignored. What Satan means for harm, God means for good.

How to Move On from Being Ignored

When you are ignored over a long period by someone close to you and efforts at reconciliation have failed, you may need to start moving on for your own emotional health. Here are some tips:

  • Make the effort needed to heal the relationship. If the other person remains unresponsive, let it go.
  • Release them to God in prayer. Ask Him for emotional healing and freedom from bitterness.
  • Pour your energy into healthy relationships that uplift you. Limit time with toxic people.
  • Refuse to dwell on the rejection. When thoughts come, refocus on positive things.
  • Ask God to help you forgive and see they other person as He does. They too are wounded.
  • Look for ways to bless them through prayer and sometimes action. Overcome evil with good.
  • Trust God to work powerfully even in pain. Let Him shape your character.
  • Wait on God’s timing. He can change hearts in His time to restore relationships.

Even after doing what you can, the other person may remain stubbornly disconnected. Focus then shifts to your own spiritual and emotional well-being. By God’s grace, you can move on.


Being ignored leaves scars especially when done by those we expect to care. It tempts us to close off from others to avoid further hurt. But God wants to use it redemptively to build Christlike character and deepen your walk with Him. By responding biblically, you leave the door open for reconciliation and position yourself for emotional healing. If the breach persists, keep living out God’s love. Forgive and bless them anyway. God promises to never ignore or abandon you even if others do. He will turn their slight into your strength. Rather than isolation, choose intimacy with Him. Let your pain become your gain.

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