Infidelity and adultery are unfortunately common issues that can destroy marriages and families. A “homewrecker” refers to a person who intentionally pursues a relationship with someone who is already married. This causes distress and often leads to divorce. What does the Bible say about homewreckers and adultery? There are many verses that provide timeless wisdom and warnings.
- Adultery is strictly forbidden in the Bible, and homewreckers bring destruction.
- God views faithfulness in marriage as very important.
- There are serious spiritual consequences for homewreckers unrepentant of their sins.
- Practical wisdom in the Bible advises avoiding temptation and opportunity.
- Jesus calls us to love, respect, and honor marriage covenants.
- Homewreckers show lack of love and respect for others.
- God’s grace offers forgiveness to repentant sinners.
The Bible contains many passages addressing the topics of adultery, sexual immorality, and respect for marriage. Examining these verses allows us to understand God’s perspective and instructions when it comes to homewreckers and fidelity. While God condemns such actions, His grace and forgiveness are open to anyone who repents.
Adultery is Strictly Forbidden
The 7th of the Ten Commandments states “You shall not commit adultery.” (Exodus 20:14 NKJV) This commandment from God makes it clear that adultery is a very serious sin. He expects complete faithfulness within a marriage.
In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus takes the commandment a step further:
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28 NKJV)
This indicates that adultery in God’s eyes includes not just physical acts but also thoughts and lust. It’s not enough to abstain from adultery itself – we must also avoid temptation, lustful thoughts, and situations that could lead to adultery.
The New Testament contains multiple passages condemning sexual immorality and advocating for purity:
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NKJV)
“But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints” (Ephesians 5:3 NKJV)
Adultery is included under the umbrella of sexual immorality that God forbids.
God Views Faithfulness as Important
Not only does God prohibit adultery, but He places positive emphasis on faithfulness, loyalty, and commitment in marriage:
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4 ESV)
Several of the Ten Commandments focus on respect for other people’s relationships and property. Committing adultery violates respect for the most sacred human relationship – marriage.
The Bible describes a husband and wife becoming “one flesh” through marriage (Genesis 2:24, Mark 10:8). Adultery is a grievous violation of that covenant. God does not take it lightly.
Serious Consequences for Homewreckers
Those who intentionally commit “homewrecking” face dire spiritual consequences according to the Bible.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Hebrews 13:4 NIV)
Not only is the adulterer condemned here, but “all the sexually immoral” face judgement. This includes any unmarried accomplice in adultery.
Proverbs 6 contains a stern warning:
“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell, lest you ponder her path of life— her ways are unstable; you do not know them.” (Proverbs 5:3-6 NKJV)
While the temptation to adultery may be “sweet as honey”, it ultimately leads to ruin and hell for those ensnared unrepentant.
In the Lord’s Prayer, Christ instructs us to pray “’And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’” (Matthew 6:13 NKJV)
This encourages us to pray for strength to avoid temptation and to flee from evil. King David’s original sin with Bathsheba occurred when he failed to flee sexual temptation – he saw her bathing and continued to lust instead of looking away (2 Samuel 11).
The Bible advises avoiding circumstances where we might be tempted to marital infidelity or other sexual immorality:
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18 NKJV)
“…make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.” (Romans 13:14 NKJV)
If we purposefully place ourselves in temptation’s path, we are unlikely to resist. Discretion and willpower are required.
Love, Honor, and Respect Marriage
More broadly, Jesus Christ calls believers to honor marriage commitments and show love to others.
When questioned about divorce, Christ replied:
“Haven’t you read…that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6 NIV)
Homewreckers show blatant disregard for these biblical principles. They prize their own lust and desires above the dignity and covenant of marriage.
We are called to a higher standard – love, respect, self-control, faithfulness, and treating others how we would wish to be treated.
“You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:31 NKJV)
“Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:14 NKJV)
Forgiveness for Repentant Sinners
King David committed terrible sins of adultery and murder, yet when he repented God forgave him:
“The Lord also has taken away your sin; you shall not die.” (2 Samuel 12:13 NKJV)
David wrote Psalm 51 crying out for God’s mercy and purification after the depth of his crimes set in. God seeks repentance rather than vengeance.
Even while hanging on the cross, Jesus forgave and pardoned a criminal crucified next to Him who repented sincerely (Luke 23:39-43). It was likely too late for that criminal to undo his past wrongs, but Christ forgave him anyway.
Paul declares in the New Testament:
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11 ESV)
While misdeeds have consequences, God’s grace is transformative and ever-present for humble souls who seek redemption through Christ.
No matter what sins we have committed, God earnestly desires our repentance and will joyfully forgive those who turn to Him with a changed heart:
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9 ESV)
The Bible could not be clearer in its denunciation of adultery and condemnation of homewreckers who selfishly destroy marriages. At the same time, God’s mercy remains open to all who sincerely seek it. Forgiveness and redemption are available, but we must be ready to repent and change our ways for good.
While today’s culture may sometimes treat infidelity lightly, Scripture makes no such accommodation. The 7th Commandment to abstain from adultery remains in effect. God views marriage and faithfulness as sacred. Those who intentionally entice married individuals into affairs face grave spiritual jeopardy. Yet nobody is beyond salvation in Christ. His love extends even to the sincere adulterer ready to make amends.
The Bible advises fleeing temptation, thinking of others before ourselves, honoring marriage covenants, and acting in love. If we have faltered, let it drive us into the merciful arms of a God ready to forgive all who earnestly seek Him. With the Lord’s help, lives and relationships can be redeemed.