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Unequally Yoked: What Does the Bible Say?

Introduction

As Christians, we are called to live a life that reflects our faith and commitment to Christ. This can be challenging, especially when it comes to relationships. The Bible warns us about being unequally yoked, but what does this really mean?

In this blog post, we will explore what the Bible says about being unequally yoked and how we can apply this wisdom to our relationships today.

The phrase “unequally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14, which says, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” (NKJV).

This verse warns against forming partnerships with non-believers in ministry work, but it has also been interpreted to apply to relationships more broadly. Being unequally yoked means being in a relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus Christ.

This can cause tension and conflict in the relationship, and can also hinder our spiritual growth and obedience to God.

In this post, we will explore examples of unequally yoked relationships in the Bible, the importance of being equally yoked, and principles we can apply to our relationships today.

We will discuss the benefits of being in a relationship with someone who shares our faith, and the potential consequences of being in a relationship with someone who does not. We will also explore practical steps we can take to avoid being unequally yoked, and how we can honor God in our relationships.

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Defining “Unequally Yoked”

The phrase “unequally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14, which says, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” (NKJV).

In the context of this passage, Paul is urging the Corinthians not to form partnerships with non-believers in their ministry work. However, this verse has also been interpreted to apply to relationships more broadly.

To be “unequally yoked” means to be in a relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus Christ. This can cause tension and conflict in the relationship because our values and priorities as Christians are different from those of non-believers.

Unequally yoked relationships can also hinder our spiritual growth and obedience to God because we may be tempted to compromise our beliefs to please our partner or avoid conflict.

Examples of Unequally Yoked Relationships in the Bible

The Bible provides several examples of relationships that were unequally yoked. One of the most well-known is the story of King Solomon. Despite his wisdom and devotion to God, Solomon was led astray by his many wives who worshiped other gods.

In 1 Kings 11:4-6, we read,

“For it was so, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned his heart after other gods; and his heart was not loyal to the Lord his God, as was the heart of his father David. For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. Solomon did evil in the sight of the Lord, and did not fully follow the Lord, as did his father David” (NKJV).

Another example is the relationship between Samson and Delilah in the book of Judges. Samson was a judge of Israel who had been chosen by God to deliver his people from the Philistines. However, he fell in love with Delilah, a Philistine woman who did not share his faith.

Delilah repeatedly tried to trick Samson into revealing the source of his strength, and eventually succeeded. Samson’s relationship with Delilah ultimately led to his downfall and death.

The Importance of Being Equally Yoked

Given the examples of unequally yoked relationships in the Bible, it is clear that God cares about the people we choose to form relationships with.

Being unequally yoked can have serious spiritual consequences, and it is important for us to take this warning seriously. Here are a few reasons why it is important to be equally yoked in our relationships:

1. Shared Values and Priorities

When we are in a relationship with someone who shares our faith, we have a common foundation for our values and priorities. We can support each other in our spiritual growth and encourage each other to live according to God’s Word.

When we are unequally yoked, however, our partner may not understand or share our values, which can cause tension and conflict in the relationship.

2. Spiritual Growth

Being in a relationship with someone who shares our faith can also help us grow spiritually. We can pray and study the Bible together, and hold each other accountable in our walk with God.

When we are unequally yoked, we may be tempted to compromise our beliefs or neglect our spiritual practices in order to please our partner or avoid conflict.

3. Obedience to God

Ultimately, being equally yoked is about obedience to God. God has called us to be set apart and live according to his Word. When we are in a relationship with someone who does not share our faith, we may be tempted to compromise our beliefs or disobey God’s commands.

As Christians, our primary allegiance is to God, and we should prioritize obedience to him above all else.

Applying this Wisdom to Our Relationships Today

So, what does this mean for our relationships today? Here are a few principles we can apply to help us avoid being unequally yoked:

1. Seek God’s Guidance

Before entering into any relationship, we should seek God’s guidance and direction. We should pray for wisdom and discernment, and ask God to reveal any red flags or warning signs. God knows what is best for us, and if we trust him, he will guide us in our relationships.

2. Prioritize Shared Faith

When considering a potential partner, we should prioritize shared faith. This does not mean that we should only date or marry people who are exactly like us, but it does mean that we should seek someone who shares our core values and beliefs.

We should look for someone who is committed to following Jesus and living according to God’s Word.

3. Don’t Compromise Your Beliefs

In any relationship, it is important to stand firm in our beliefs and values. We should not compromise our faith in order to please our partner or avoid conflict.

If we find ourselves in a relationship with someone who does not share our faith, we should be honest and upfront about our beliefs, and be prepared to walk away if necessary.

4. Be a Light in the Relationship

If we are in a relationship with someone who does not share our faith, we should still strive to be a light in that relationship. We can demonstrate Christ’s love and character through our actions and attitudes, and pray that our partner will be drawn closer to God as a result.

5. Stay Connected to Christian Community

Finally, it is important to stay connected to Christian community, especially if we are in a relationship with someone who does not share our faith. We need the support and encouragement of other believers to help us stay accountable and grow spiritually.

Conclusion

In conclusion, being unequally yoked is a serious issue that can have significant spiritual consequences. As Christians, we are called to be set apart and live according to God’s Word.

This means that we should prioritize shared faith in our relationships, and avoid compromising our beliefs or disobeying God’s commands.

By seeking God’s guidance, prioritizing shared faith, standing firm in our beliefs, being a light in the relationship, and staying connected to Christian community, we can avoid being unequally yoked and honor God in our relationships.

As we navigate relationships in our lives, we must remember to seek God’s guidance and direction. We can trust that God knows what is best for us, and if we trust him, he will guide us in our relationships. We must prioritize shared faith in our relationships, and be willing to stand firm in our beliefs and values.

We can demonstrate Christ’s love and character through our actions and attitudes, and pray that our partner will be drawn closer to God as a result.

Finally, we must remember that our primary allegiance is to God, and we should prioritize obedience to him above all else. We must remember that being in a relationship with someone who does not share our faith can have serious spiritual consequences, and we must be willing to walk away if necessary.

By following these principles, we can avoid being unequally yoked and honor God in our relationships, living a life that reflects our faith and commitment to Christ.

Pastor Duke Taber
Pastor Duke Taber

Pastor Duke Taber

All articles have been written or reviewed by Pastor Duke Taber.
Pastor Duke Taber is an alumnus of Life Pacific University and Multnomah Biblical Seminary.
He has been in pastoral ministry since 1988.
Today he is the owner and managing editor of 3 successful Christian websites that support missionaries around the world.
He is currently starting a brand new church in Mesquite NV called Mesquite Worship Center, a Non-Denominational Spirit Filled Christian church in Mesquite Nevada.