Soul ties are an important but often overlooked concept in Christianity. As Christians, it’s critical that we understand what the Bible teaches about soul ties so we can avoid unhealthy ones and foster connections that honor God.
What Are Soul Ties?
Soul ties can form in many relationships, including:
Soul ties can be positive or negative depending on the nature of the relationship. Godly soul ties based on love, respect and purity can be beneficial. But unhealthy soul ties from past hurts, sin or abuse often have detrimental effects.
Soul Tie Origins in the Bible
The concept of soul ties originates in the Bible. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
This verse describes the profound soul tie in marriage. Through sexual union, God designed husband and wife to share an intimate oneness – a merging of body, soul and spirit.
Even after marriage, soul connections remain. This is evident when David refers to Jonathan as being “knit to my soul” (1 Samuel 18:1). Though not sexual, their friendship soul tie was deep and powerful.
Overall, Scripture makes it clear that our souls can unite with others for good or bad. So it’s vital we build righteous ties and break destructive bonds.
How Soul Ties Form
Soul ties form in many ways, but a few of the most common include:
Sexual Intimacy: God designed sex to soul tie marriage partners. But outside of marriage, improper soul bonds form through sexual sin (1 Corinthians 6:16). This includes sexual intercourse, but also other acts like petting, pornography or lust.
Time Investment: The more time you spend with someone, the more your souls knit together. This is healthy in marriage and close friendships, but harmful in bad company (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Shared Experiences: Going through pivotal life events together forms a soul tie. This includes birth, death, trauma, spiritual encounters and major milestones.
Agreements and Vows: Making solemn promises can spiritually join souls. Marriage vows create soul ties, along with ungodly covenants like blood oaths, gang pledges or Masonic vows.
Spiritual Connections: Attempting to connect souls through methods like laying on of hands, hypnosis, meditation, chanting and visions can produce unhealthy ties. We must test the spirits (1 John 4:1).
Emotional Dependence: When we become dependent on others for love, identity, significance or validation, it creates an unhealthy soul tie. Our security must come from Christ alone.
Once a soul tie forms, it must either be fostered for good or broken if harmful. Let’s explore the fruits of each.
Signs of a Godly Soul Tie
How can you distinguish healthy from unhealthy soul bonds? Here are signs of ties that honor God:
- Deep emotional intimacy and vulnerability
- Sacrificial love for the other person
- Mutual prayer, spiritual fellowship and accountability
- Freedom to be yourself and speak truth
- Personal growth and sharpening (Proverbs 27:17)
- Greater passion and devotion to Jesus
- Amplified joys and diminished sorrows
- Flowing communication and understanding
- Greater creativity and productivity
- Protection, provision and care
- Complementary strengths and spiritual gifts
Dangers of Ungodly Soul Ties
On the other hand, here are red flags of ungodly ties:
- Loss of identity – “I don’t know who I am without them”
- Idolizing or obsession over the person
- Jealousy and possessiveness
- Compromising your convictions or values
- Silencing the Holy Spirit’s conviction
- Adopting negative personality traits
- Feeling drained or oppressed after time together
- Isolation from family and Christian friends
- Confusion, emotional turmoil or instability
- Sexual temptation and defiled passions
- Partnership in sinful activities
- Disobeying God or ignoring His Word
If any of these apply, it likely indicates a harmful soul tie needing severed. Let’s explore how to break free.
How to Break an Unhealthy Soul Tie
If you have an unhealthy soul tie, find freedom with these steps:
Repent and Ask Deliverance: Confess involvement in sin and repent. Ask God to break the soul tie through Jesus’ power (Matthew 18:18).
Replace Counterfeit Affections: The void left by broken ties gets filled with God’s perfect love. Fix your heart on Christ (Philippians 1:21).
Renounce Ungodly Vows and Claims: Cancel all control spoken or written requests gave the other party. Revoke consent for body, soul or spirit contact.
Forgive and Release: Let go of bitterness and forgive those who sinned against you (Matthew 6:15). Release them to God.
Cleanse Tie Points: Symbolic acts like deleting old emails/photos, removing souvenirs, burning keepsakes or burying jewelry can help closure.
Block New Ties: Guard your heart until healing occurs (Proverbs 4:23). Avoid communication, close proximity or dwelling on memories.
Receive Inner Healing: Ask God to heal wounds that contributed to the tie like fatherlessness, insecurity, trauma or rejection. Let Him fill voids.
Build New Godly Ties: As God restores your soul, form ties with those who’ll spur growth in Christ. Share your testimony!
With God’s help, you can find relational freedom!
Reminders for Managing Soul Ties
As we conclude, here are key reminders for managing soul ties:
- Guard your heart closely and test spiritual influences (1 Thessalonians 5:21-22)
- Seek ties that strengthen, sharpen and spur you to obey Christ
- Limit physical and emotional intimacy to marriage
- Forgive quickly and keep short accounts
- Grieve and sever harmful ties through godly counsel
- Don’t partner, support or tolerate another’s sinful habits
- Avoid initiations, oaths, objects or artifacts granting spiritual authority
- Commit binding agreements and covenants very carefully
- Make Christ – not people – your life’s anchor, security and affection
- Walking in God’s love and abiding in Him keeps ties healthy
I hope this overview equips you to better handle soul ties as you follow Jesus. With wisdom and vigilance, our connections can bless us rather than becoming bondages. God longs for our relationships to draw us closer to Him.